I first read about natural consequences in a magazine wherein a woman allowed her daughter leave the house without a jacket on a chilly day, just to experience that choice. She never left without a jacket again.

Humans adapt their behavior by experiencing the natural consequences of that behavior, and who are we to rob them of that?  However, I am  very uncomfortable when I am aware that I am delivering those natural consequences in the form of a confrontation. Especially as actors, we have to pick our battles, and often I opt out. 

Case in point, I was at a holiday meal and there was some much needed hired help in the kitchen. It was sweltering in there and the sun beat down through the windows. I noticed that their sweat was dripping precariously close to the soup, so I closed the blinds. Not long after that, one of the workers sought me out with his wet face and a sweat-speckled black shirt. He asked could we please close the blinds, as someone had opened them. 

"No. I prefer them open," was the host's answer. As I relayed his preference, the caterers all leaned in to stare in disbelief as sweat rolled off their hairline, down their cheeks, and right into the soup. 

At what point do we say, "Hey stop being weird about the blinds. These people you hired are suffering and you have an obligation to stop it!" But there was a crowd and that seemed wrong. Also, he was being cruel and self entitled. So I just let the man eat the soup with droplets of funk and dander. Natural Consequences.

How many people are just letting you eat the soup? Are you really open to hearing honest talk about your own stuff? 

One way to find out where you stand on anything is to begin a collaboration; to self produce. As actors we no longer need to solely fit into someone else's vision/film/play/TV series. When we self produce, we evolve personally and professionally. And our professional work is only as great as our personal growth, so what are you self producing this year?